'PANADOL' FOR THE BROKEN HEART

Bad relationships, break-ups, a broken heart(s), silent tears on the inside, a chance of blaming yourself thinking your actions caused it, occasional visits down memory lane, moping around and then depression kicks in. Some of us may have gone through this exact phases of consequential break-ups, we see it in chick flicks or even in our friends. However, these are the ‘’normal’’ symptoms that a lady feels when she once loved truly but lost in the game of love.

Yeah, I have had my own fair share of break-ups but even if it hurt really bad, I never let the pain rule my life. No, no, no!!! Going through all that huge sad drama, the depression, ughhhhh!!! A buzz and new thrill of something fascinating would be just what I needed to calm me down like say, buying myself a ‘’break-up gift’’. 

It sounds bizarre but I see that gift as telling myself  ‘’the relationship was fun while it lasted, you loved, get over it, it doesn’t end here but in the meantime, take this gift as a consolation prize’’. You ask what kind of gifts? It could be sneakers, jewellery, a new hairdo, novels, a pair of jeans, anything leaving me with a huge smile on my face and no, it is not a subtle way of repressing my emotions, it is all about letting go of whatever happened. A break-up is never the end of the world so don’t let it rule you.

 

You may think ahhh this chic is in the middle of a breakup. Nope, that’s far from it. I felt the need to post this to relieve the world of more broken hearts than it can take. I have seen a couple of friends way too disheartened by break-ups and it’s not a pretty sight. A lady doesn’t have to go through all that huge sad emotional drama in her life. Take the insightful lyrics of Mary J. Blige’s ‘’No More Drama’’ (Uh, it feels so good when you let go of all the drama in your life, Now you’re free from all the pain, free from all the game, all the stress, so find your happiness).

Ok, back to me, another ‘’therapy’’ I would use in the event of a break-up from someone I thought I was totally in sync with and for some reason, yours truly is too damn broke to buy herself a gift, I would sit down, write a letter to myself, pretend for that moment I was my own shrink, split my persona in two; the shrink and the lady who needs a lift-up of her spirit. 

So you see, this said letter would be giving me a list of all the things I detested or hated in this ‘’ex-boyfriend’’ while we were together and also reasons to move on, let go, put on a happy face. More often than not, after reading this letter to myself, I would actually feel much much better and then I walk around with this in-built confidence. This renewed happiness then reflects on my whole aura to the point that If I ever see my ex again, those feelings may surface but It doesn’t sting or hurt of loud sighs and ‘could-have-beens’.

I find that turning to friends for comfort and solace is not really my thing so as weird I am, this is what I do. I let it all out on paper or buy the occasional ‘’break-up gift’’ and voila, a wide grin surfaces. 

This is my recommended ''panadol'' for a broken heart. If symptoms still persist after a week or two, consult me! Guys, I don’t know how you handle break-ups ooo. I know you have this macho thing going on, so I guess yours would be like singing to yourself ‘’on to the next one’’. Hahahaha, but frankly, it still remains elusive to me. 

Bye for now, lovelies!!!