Before you read this post, note that it is just an opinion of mine based on what I think. It is not a feminist post. Would love to know what you think.
Women are all born with a touch of uniqueness, be it beauty, intelligence, charm, wit, great intellect. Some come with the whole package. In the words of Farrah Fawcett, the late movie actress, ‘’God made man stronger but not necessarily more intelligent. He gave women intuition and femininity. And, used properly, that combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met’’. I love that quote.
Intelligence in a woman is a blessing. I attest to that. No, I’m not a nerd. I love to have fun. I like to dress up, look great, look glam. Being smart is just another in-built trait that is like a part of my DNA. You see, I have always excelled without trying too hard though I would never brag about it to anyone. It is never cool to do such. Understanding things comes naturally and being able to create ideas is one of the pros. I also find solace in using intelligence to understand the worth of the smaller things in life. I don’t use it to judge people around me; what I judge is your personality.
However, there are no pros without cons. The down-side of being smart and witty is that people tend to be intimidated by you. They assume you think you are better than them. When I was in school, sometimes I would be accused of deceiving my friends, like getting great grades while they didn’t do so good. Sometimes when I speak, they might say ‘’heyyyy you ehn and big big words’’ lol. So in a while, I have to dumb myself down to suit other people’s ego and not make them feel threatened. That there, that is the ‘’curse’’.
Brushing that aside, I wonder do men really like intelligent women? Women who are pretty and intelligent? Women who are opinionated, articulate, very witty, make constructive decisions, are determined to be independent, focused on achievements? Do men want these women as their girlfriends, wives-to-be? I ask because I used to down-play my intelligence in relationships so my boyfriend can feel smart too.
When you ask a guy, ‘‘ What qualities would you like your lady to have?’’ There is a common response given --- ‘’Beauty ( heehee, that one always come first), good character, INTELLIGENCE, humility etc’’. You get my point. Note that intelligence was bolded. Do y’all really mean it? Or do you find it sexy and appealing in a woman? I mean, does it make her that more interesting?
OR would you rather prefer a ‘’
dumb blonde’’…Scratch that..we don’t have blondes in naija..I meant to say ‘’dumb black’’….heehee.. A lady who would always say ‘’Yes, dear’’ to everything you say, their job is to wake up and look pretty. Would you want that?
I as a lady like guys with the great package: intelligence, good character, loving and cute. So if you guys do not want the ‘smart’ factor in your ladies, then I say it’s almost like a curse if we are intelligent.
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